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 Bachelor Party (1984)
IMDB rating: 5.50
Plot: Tom Hanks is about to marry Tawny Kitaen. Her parents hate him. Her old boyfriend hates him. They all have money and he gets a cut of the crap games on the catholic school bus he drives. His friends decide to give him the bachelor party of all bachelor parties with an expensive hotel, booze, movies and hookers. As the players catch wind of the elements of the party, each adds a little monkey wrench so that one set of hookers ends up giving demos at the bride’s shower, the brides friends end up dressed as hookers in a room with a number of non English speaking Japanese business men, and so on as things get out of hand.
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Can someone please advise me on a response to a hurtful email from my soon to be daughter-in-law?
Nate’s Bachelor Party
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Thu, February 4, 2010 8:00:35 PM
From:
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Hey guys,
I just noticed that Nate was planning his OWN Bachelor Party…. and there’s something wrong with that. From my understanding a Bachelor Party is supposed to be thrown by the groomsmen as a treat for the Groom. This is not the case in his situation, Nate has been going out of his way to talk to people about getting together for this "party". I am not sure what’s going on here, but something needs to be done. My bridal shower and bachelorette party was already set, paid for and planned by the time I got to know about it and was invited, and that’s how it’s supposed to be done. Nate says that you guys have never done the whole wedding thing before but so have my bridesmaids, and they went out of their way, did their research and got everything planned. I am super disappointed that his friends would do this to him.
Please, please, please plan something for him, without him planning it, that’s how it’s supposed to be. He is a good guy and at least deserves this, I felt so bad when he was telling me that he was calling people up…. so sad. I’m not sure how you guys are okay with this, but please take some time to plan it for him, it’s not every year someone gets married. If you guys don’t know what to do, please ask me and I can just refer to google. The only person who said something to him about it was Lucas who suggested that he could speak to the BM…Lucas knows some stuff about weddings and what not, and I know he’s not the only groomsman that does. Please let me know what you’re thinking.
To start the discussion, Nate is fine with traveling on March 6, March 27 or April 3 for that weekend in Charleston. You guys can double check with him after you vote for a date and just let him know. Ideas?? Nate loves oyster roasts and barbeques, maybe you guys can have that on saturday or dinner or something and then a night on the town. At least come up with a date and schedule so you guys can invite a few more of his friends.
If no one wants to throw a bachelor party for him, just let me know. I will get some of his other friends together to do something fun for him.
Thank you, and please take some time out of your busy lives to respond to this email. I don’t mean to get into the way of the no planning but poor Nate was planning by himself.
Have a great weekend!
Michelle
I am the mother of the groom and this is the second time she has sent this sort of email. I have no worries posting this on Yahoo.
well we know who will be in control in this marriage!
this letter is full of "guilt-inducing" words. This makes me sick!
that was great self-actualized!
That is what I thought too Rachel…..she sent this to me to make me feel her anger so I would feel anger too!
makes me wonder why she sent this to me and I won’t even be going to the Bachelor party
She’s calling out your kid’s friends and male family members on poor wedding etiquette. You don’t have to reply at all (in fact, you have no right to reply) since you’re not male and therefore not the intended audience.
Butt out.
Rachel | Feb 04, 2010
You are the mother of the groom? She might not be too happy about the fact that you have posted this question. I would say, don’t respond to the e-mail. Have the appropriate person (best man?) give her a call and get it worked out. Good luck!
Curious in Seattle | Feb 04, 2010
I don’t think this email is hurtful. I would be honored to have someone that cared enough about my son to stand up for him and try to make things nice for him. The response should be something like, you are right, we dropped the ball and we are on it. Thanks for loving our son so much.
ape2016 | Feb 04, 2010
Dear Michele, I just called his best man & told him you sent this letter & asked if he needed any help or could handle this cause you are right. Please understand this is not something we are used to but will rise to the occasion thanks to you expecting the best for us. I appreciate that you are someone who looks out for my son beyond my biggest dreams for him. I will call his best man again to see what they are doing & just tell them we won’t say anything to Nate but leave it in there hands unless they need any help. So happy to be having someone as precious as you who loves my son as much as I do, to our family, Love, (whatever your name is/Mom)
self-actualized | Feb 04, 2010
Ummm, the only part I think you could play in this would be to maybe contact some of his friends who perhaps don’t know about the wedding and/or the bachelor party thing/rule/whatever. Even doing that as his mother is a stretch and out of your juristicion. Really, this has little to do with you unless she wants to share the frustration with you that she feels toward his friends.
If nobody wants to plan anything the two of you should get together and get nontraditional. Throw a party for some other reason and make it all about him?
I wouldn’t feel hurt by this e-mail, in fact I wouldn’t even feel it was directed at me as his mother and not one of his friends. I’d e-mail her back to bounce ideas around with her.
P.S:
When is the wife NOT in control of the marriage, hon?
Peace out, GF!
-R
**REZ** | Feb 05, 2010
Yeah… uh huh….
Good luck with this one…
Really, nothing you can do, Amanda. Just let it go. I think she should leave it be too, but regardless, there is nothing that you could do that wouldn’t stir the pot or a "future pot." Just be supportive of you son and be present where it matters and where it is relevant.
I don’t understand why she would send you this though. A bachelor party is usually for the groom and traditionally does not involve the bride. She should just let it happen without interference but nothing that you can do that probably wouldn’t cause greater problems.
Choose your battles carefully, I wouldn’t respond, such things can bite you in the ass, I think.
Celtic Peace is still optimistic | Feb 05, 2010
Shes victimizing him to you and to others. How is she going to treat him in a marriage. This is a pathetic put down and disrespect to the groom. Even if no one is planning anything for him, she doesnt need to play him like this. I would forward to your son and let him think about it.
Tiger | Feb 05, 2010
Don’t listen to Tiger, if you don’t want to start a fight. Your son will probably be on his fiancee side no matter what.
I honestly understand your daughter-in-law point of view. Planning a wedding can be very stressful and she might be feeling overwhelmed with all the arrangements. I can understand she wants everything to be perfect done. A wedding is something we do once in a lifetime and we all want it to be perfect. That’s why people pay big money to wedding planners, so that situations like that can be avoided. As I understand your son and your daughter-in-law has no wedding planner, right? Please, don’t be offended, instead try to understand and work things with her and his friends the best way possible. Your son will be grateful if you do so.
If I were you, I would reply to all in her message giving my support. I would also call his best man and remind him of whatever he has to do. Is your husband around? I would get him involved too.
Finally, your concern about her being in control does not matter right now. What really matter is if your son loves her and is happy with her. He loves her the way she is, and he would be upset if you ever tells him what you think. However, if one day he complains, then, and only then, you could agree with him and add your own personal comment and dislikes.
I have 3 girls and 1 son.
Hope everything works alright for all of you, and wish the best for the couple.
Peace!
Janet Reincarnated | Feb 06, 2010
Just ignore it. We would all like to marry perfect people, but if we held to that standard…yes, you guessed it, no one would ever get married…the human race would die out.
Does she love your son? Have you raised him well?
If yes, then everything will be okay, at least as okay as it can be in this crazy mixed-up world.
Best of luck. Jesus said we should love our enemies…surely there’s room for a few in-laws.
Jim | Feb 06, 2010
I find it very surprising that you take it as an offense that she sends this email to you. I think this says more about you than it says about her. If you don